At age 17, l had an idea of my fairytale wedding day. The more l grew, l learnt that sometimes those fairytales do not work out the way we plan it. Most times we personally do not package ourselves enough to be found a times. The bible says “he that findeth a wife has found a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
My love story started from a five years relationship which went down the drain and subsequent ones after. It never worked out until my eyes became tired of crying and my heart was tired of being broken. I decided that maybe relation-ship wasn’t meant for me after all. I told myself l wanted to be a Sister and when it was time for me to have children, I would go and adopt because of my love for children. I continued living my life and also appreciate my singleness. I en-joyed complete freedom until a Pastor friend of mine pointed out to me that l can be married and still be free. He did not condemn me but told me we should seek the face of the Lord in fasting and prayer. We did seven days prayer and fasting in October 2015 where God revealed that He will give me beauty for ashes “To all who mourn in Israel, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their right-eousness, they will be like great oaks that the LORD has planted for his own glory.” (Ish 61:3).
I left it but continued to work on myself. I took myself to the movies, took myself to the restaurant, played games but never left God. I started working more on my Spiritual life by listening to God more, communicating with the Holy Spirit, Reading his word, Praying and Fasting as well as working on my mind.
In our present world, I notice that sometimes we as ladies want a finished product. We want a made-man. He should have a particular job, a level of relationship with Christ, a certain association to name a few. My question is “ Are you a made woman yourself?”. Personally l don’t care if he was made or not, instead l wanted to be a woman of Pro 31:10-end. Fast forward to January 20 2016, I added the man on the church facebook and we started chatting. April 2016 we met and five days later tied the knot at the registry. December 2016 we had our traditional and church wedding.
My sister God doesn’t choose for you. He guides your step but you need to be sensitive to the HolySpirit. At some point the man/woman may not packaged the way you want it but if he/she is yours, it is workable. Have you ever asked yourself if you were the ideal woman. The foundation of it all is that you attract the type of person you are except it works inline with God’s mercy. My marriage is peaceful.
After our marriage, l continued with my prayer, devotion and communication to God. I can’t give you reasons why l love my husband because my love isn’t based on physical appearance but spirituality too. The love you have for God is what you will both express. That is the reality. I talk to spouse so freely like am having a conversation with God. I just open up, hold his hands.
Where is my summary going you may wonder… You need to prepare and package yourself too. That relationship you are appreciating outside, you can also have it if you are willing to sacrifice. The sacrifice starts from our intimacy with God, avoid interference from third parties except if it has to with godly counsel.
Have you talked to God and asked him for wisdom. Previously, things l did not appreciate in my partner, l complained about it. Sometimes the complain felt like nagging until l knew the secret. I started taking it up with God in prayers until God opened my eyes to one secret that instead of praying for your husband to change, I should begin to ask him for wisdom and the spirit of patience. That simple prayer taught me endurance and also dealt with my own short tem-per. The prayer got me closer to my knees where l fight all my battles.
I was found and l believe you cam be found too. It takes sacrifice, it takes a daily walk with the Heavenly Father.

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